And as I sat alone in my empty flat, away from home on a festive day, more to punish myself than anything else, I realised a couple of things about myself that I never knew. Sometimes I wonder if people, normal folks, go through this too. Discovering new things, new facets of their personality, as often as I do.
But anyway, coming back to the topic at hand, I grew up on a healthy dose of romance novels. I saw more romance movies than action movies (though I love action movies too). Come to think of it, I was always lost in the beautiful locales to notice what the heroine was saying to the hero in an oh-so whisper-y voice. And when M, exasperated, said, how can you not know? I was forced to take a good hard look at myself and accept that maybe, I am just not a romantic. That came as a shock to me. All my life I believed myself to be a romantic. Somewhere, I still think I am, but maybe I am a closet(whatever that means) romantic you know? Does that make me sad? It does. (No the closet bit, but not being able to weave poetry all the time and not knowing what to say and more importantly, how to say it).
Women are supposed to be romantic, you know? They are supposed to be born with all tricks of the trade. Getting men to do their bidding is a cake walk for most women and I am always left with my jaw on the floor. How do they know what to say and how to say it? Like is there some class I missed as a teenager? I can flirt all right, but when it comes to the real thing, I am always left fumbling. I'll either say something entirely stupid and spoil the moment or just not know what to say and keep quiet.
So when someone says you have such beautiful eyes, I'll stare blankly at him and say okay. (I still don't what the correct response should be).
And although it does make me feel less like a woman, that's who I am. I am artless. I am stupid. And I am, most of the time, scared.
So, I give up. Maybe I really should go up in the Himalayas and learn how to chant and stuff.
P.S: Next time you want to get all romantic with me, get a list of responses you'd like in return. I am good at reading.
But anyway, coming back to the topic at hand, I grew up on a healthy dose of romance novels. I saw more romance movies than action movies (though I love action movies too). Come to think of it, I was always lost in the beautiful locales to notice what the heroine was saying to the hero in an oh-so whisper-y voice. And when M, exasperated, said, how can you not know? I was forced to take a good hard look at myself and accept that maybe, I am just not a romantic. That came as a shock to me. All my life I believed myself to be a romantic. Somewhere, I still think I am, but maybe I am a closet(whatever that means) romantic you know? Does that make me sad? It does. (No the closet bit, but not being able to weave poetry all the time and not knowing what to say and more importantly, how to say it).
Women are supposed to be romantic, you know? They are supposed to be born with all tricks of the trade. Getting men to do their bidding is a cake walk for most women and I am always left with my jaw on the floor. How do they know what to say and how to say it? Like is there some class I missed as a teenager? I can flirt all right, but when it comes to the real thing, I am always left fumbling. I'll either say something entirely stupid and spoil the moment or just not know what to say and keep quiet.
So when someone says you have such beautiful eyes, I'll stare blankly at him and say okay. (I still don't what the correct response should be).
And although it does make me feel less like a woman, that's who I am. I am artless. I am stupid. And I am, most of the time, scared.
So, I give up. Maybe I really should go up in the Himalayas and learn how to chant and stuff.
P.S: Next time you want to get all romantic with me, get a list of responses you'd like in return. I am good at reading.
1 comment:
You never miss the water until it's gone - it is ok to miss home. And I believe each one of us needs to know how that feels by going through it and not just by others' experience; that - makes you realize the true value of home and parents / family :)
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