New Year Resolution...

With new year you itch make drastic life-changing changes in your life. Eating healthy, dating only good guys, going to the gym are on everyone's list, but my biggest change is moving to Tumblr! :)

I guess I just got bored of Blogger and needed something new to get me to start writing again. And although I haven't blogged in years, I am going to make an effort to post something atleast once a week! And no sad, cry-baby posts! Promise! Visit me at: http://limesandoranges.tumblr.com/

Evaporate...

And one day it will resurface. One day, the chains will break and it will rise up again. Floating gently. Laughing mercilessly. Making you run for cover.


But where will you hide?


The sound of a fast train. The smallness of the room. The not-so-broken bones.


It's everywhere.


You can't hide a dead body forever, even in the wide blue ocean. It will rise up.

Up.


Up.


Up.

Pillow Talk...

Love does a lot of things - good and bad. But what most people will not tell you is that love makes you forget who you are.


You're not a couple. You're an individual loving another individual.

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Melody...

It astounds me, it shouldn't, but every time it happens, it still does. We're still such animals. We talk about being the most intelligent living being on this planet and still - we don't know better. We can't control ourselves. We use big words and lofty arguments instead of pacifying the hurt with a gentle touch, a warm hug, an understanding smile, with love. We think we are so evolved. But what is intelligent about anger? What is noble about yelling? Why do we not listen? Why do we drown their voice, with ours, louder, harsher, meaner. Listen.



I am not proud of you. 

Sugar Baby...

It's that time again - fever and that itch to write again - anything. Just something.

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I am quite irked btw. Why is that we find it so difficult to accept that we're not always, 100% right? Why does being wrong fluster us so much. I mean you can be an intelligent man but not know everything. You can be a well read, smart girl but not have all the answers. What's wrong with not knowing everything? Why have we burdened ourselves with such high expectations? We must excel at everything, know the answers to every goddamn question. And we get so flustered when we don't know the answers. It's OK. No one can and should know all the answers.

I think I find it far more sexy when a man, shrugs his shoulders and says coolly, that yes, he does not have all the answers. And listens.

There is something cool and sexy about knowing and being comfortable with this knowing that you could be wrong, that you don't know everything, that you're still learning. There's something incredibly charming when one smiles and says, fine, what's the correct answer. Something incredibly attractive when one can still maintain their cool when proved wrong and still be open to listening, and not clamor to prove themselves right.

But that's just me, I could be wrong.

The Girl With The Half Teacup...

It's been such a long time since I have come here, that I don't know how or where to start...

And in fact, I started forming thoughts in my head and then went ahead and listened to "Somewhere Over The Mountains" and felt happy that I decided why rant? But then why not? :P

Anyway, I have realised something about life that should have been obvious to me -  but somehow, I never quite got it. And it's that in life, you have to ask for things you want. And that no one will give them to you unless you ask. Even though you very well deserve it. Even though everyone knows you deserve it. It's not going to come till you ask.

You want a promotion - ask for it. You want your partner to give you gifts - ask for it. You want more love, more appreciation - ask for it. You want more from your colleagues - ask for it. You want more from life - ASK for it!

It's funny now that I think of it that I have been always giving but never asking. P would come and tell me he's unhappy with me, that he's not getting anything from this relationship and I'd be oh, let me give more. But wait, why did I never turn around and ask for things I deserved and needed and was never getting? Why was I always just saying, yes, sorry, I need to put in more. Why did I never ask for more love? Why was I ever okay with scraps? Why?


And then, why should I feel bad when I don't get promoted? So I go about putting all those extra hours, working like a dog, loyal to the boot, doing all that good smart work but do I ever say - give me something in return? No. I don't. And so I shouldn't feel bad. Why should I when I never asked for that promotion just expected it? I just assume that the other person would realise all the good work I have done and reward me. But that seldom happens - no one cares that much. You have to ask.


When I see all my girl friends gushing over all the pretty gifts they get - from friends, family, lovers, colleagues, employers - I wonder - why do I never get gifts? I have got some gifts, sure - but never have I been overwhelmed with gifts - they always trickle in. And wait, whom have I to blame but me? Who tells people it's okay not to get anything for me? Who tells poeple it's okay not to get a gift? Who tells people, "Oh no, I can't take this, it is too expensive!". Who but me? What a stupid idiot! I love gifts - give me more gifts is what I should be saying - but I don't. I just smile and feel sad and wonder why does no one ever gift me?

I am not saying I want to turn into one of those kinds who are always expecting people to pay for them, load them with gifts and in turn give back nothing. No. But I think I see the problem now. What does a gift symbolise to you? To me it symbolises confidence. And I want to reach that point where I feel confident and deserving of all love and appreciation. Right now, I think I feel less deserving of all those gifts.


And I think I never ask - cause somewhere in my head - I think I am not special enough to warrant  a gift - somewhere I think I don't deserve it - I don't deserve to be treated special, treated with extra attention and care and love. I feel that I am not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, nice enough for people to spend their money, time, love, effort in making me feel happy. That I am doing nothing great at work to get that promotion. That I am not loving enough to get love back in return.


I used to think I am such a cool gf, such a cool wife, such a cool friend, employee - that I never burden you with expectations. I never demand gifts, that I am cool with not getting anything on my birthday - not even a cake - not even flowers - I love flowers and ask and ask and ask - and no one ever gets me flowers - somewhere I pretend to be this chilled out person. But who am I kidding? I am not. I just lack self-confidence.

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I also think that the person giving the gift gets more pleasure - if given willingly - than the person receiving it. I think we "allow" people to give us gifts. I think when we left people give us a gift - it says two things, one, that you're special and that you can give me a gift and I'll accept it and two, that I think I am special enough to receive a gift. Sounds strange I know. But when we receive that gift - with so much joy and yay's and thank you's - and you're so awesome - I love this - I think we give them more than we get.

We're Like This Only...

I hate how vegetarians try to make non-vegetarians feel guilty for order/earing non-veg food. No one's asking you to pay for my meal, how dare you lecture me on what I should eat or not eat? I don't tell you what you should eat, why then do you think it;'s okay to tell me what to do? Like who the fuck are you to tell me what to do anyway?

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We just don't understand the concept of "private", do we? We ask people the most private and personal of things without batting an eyelid...we have no manners and no qualms in making the other person feel any sort of discomfort and worst of all - we fucking don't want to learn! When told that it's extremely rude to ask people personal questions - they will simply say - please, ussmein kya hain - we're in not in the US of A. Arghh!

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The way people drive/ride these days? Crazy mofos will end up dying and killing someone! But no one gives a fuck - cause no one cares!

I think I know why people don't care about driving safely, don't care about following rules etc - cause in India - we put money before lives. No one gives a fuck if 1-2 people die in our overpopulated country - but money? We lose 100 rupees and you'll see the strongest of men crying over it. So we don't care if we come under the car thanks to the rash/blind driving - or even kill someone - 'cause you just run away from the scene - you get a couple of bruises but you don't shell out any money. Worst case scenario - you bribe the hawaldar. There, life's sorted for you.

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I so want a traffic god - who would suddenly appear from the skies - larger than life - huge monster like figure - and slap the shit out of these people on the road and ask them, why the fuck did you jump the signal? Why can't you follow lane discipline, why pray god why can you stop the honking?

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I don't need to say it, I don't like Indians a lot. Yeah yeah, we're warm and nice and look we live alongside Muslims and Christians and yada yada - but we live like pigs. Like animals. Like creatures from down under the stone. We have no pride. We have no respect for life. We don't care about others. We have no sensitivity towards others - we infact don't even care about our own selves! We live inferior lives and still boast that we might not live in the best of the countries in the world but we live like kings and queens in our own. Ya right. We live like kings & queens in a frog pond. And that's where we will always stay if we don't aspire to become better - to accept that we are wrong - to want to learn, to improve.


And don't give me population is the root of all evil again. That's just not acceptable to me. You don't have to go through all this pain, this daily humiliation, this daily torture - you just choose to!.

The thing with pain is that you can't stop it unless you have had enough of it - unless you reach your saturation point and realise that's it, you can't take it no more - that point sadly for us is not yet come. Till then, we will live in denial - like kings & queens - in our frogland.